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An Inspirational and Historical Memoir: Derek Frost’s Living and Loving in the Age of AIDS.

“Derek Frost writes with unsentimental honesty: a stark witness that has been largely absent from the literature. This book is both a history and an inspiration.”— Matthew Parris, Political Writer and Broadcaster.

This is a tale of a devastating pandemic, of lives cut painfully short – it’s also a love story.

In his timely memoir, Living and Loving in the Age of AIDS, Derek Frost describes how he and J, a pioneering entrepreneur and creator of iconic gay dance club Heaven, met and fell in love more than 40 years ago.

In the early 1980s their friends began to get sick and die – AIDS had arrived in their lives. When they got tested, J received what was then a death sentence: he was HIV Positive. While the onset of AIDS strengthened stigma and fear globally, they confronted their crisis with courage, humour and an indomitable resolve to survive. J’s battle lasted six long years. Turning to spiritual reflection, yoga, nature – and always to love – Derek describes a transformation of the spirit, how compassion and empathy rose phoenix-like from the flames of sickness and death, and how he and J founded the charity AIDS Ark, which has helped to save more than 1,000 HIV Positive lives. This is a story of joy and triumph, of facing universal challenges, of the great rewards that come from giving back. Derek speaks for a generation who lived through a global health crisis that many at the time refused even to acknowledge.

His is a powerful story chronicling this extraordinary era.


⭐ A timely chronicle of survival and transformation. During this time of coronavirus, lessons

learnt from the AIDS pandemic will resonate with many and will bring cheer.

⭐ The author will commit 100% of his royalties to AIDS-related charities.

⭐ Coverage and features expected in leading LGBT+ publications, including AIDS Ark

⭐ The success of publishing around the 50th anniversary of the Stonewall riot in 2019.

showed there is a keen appetite for books that speak to young queer people, both in the UK and the US. There is a desperate need for AIDS narratives that end in life, not death. This memoir achieves this important objective.

⭐ Derek Frost is a highly respected and successful designer with many high-profile

connections within the London art scene. The book will be sold at ‘pop-up’ exhibitions and at his own events.


“This is a poignant and heart-touching memoir which gives the forty year global HIV pandemic a truly human face.”

— Professor Linda-Gail Bekker, Past President International AIDS Society

”This memoir is incredibly vivid, moving, and compelling.”

— Lord Chris Smith, Master, Pembroke College, Cambridge University

“This book takes us on a journey into the very heart of darkness, and then, as importantly, out of it and beyond.”

— Del Kolve, Professor of English Literature UCLA

Derek Frost, born 1952, met and fell in love with Jeremy Norman in 1977. He’s a skilled

designer, photographer, artist, yoga practitioner and gardener. Together with Jeremy he

started numerous businesses including iconic Heaven nightclub and Soho Gyms. They

live a nomadic life on both land and water. Derek has other loves – for stones, clouds,

dance and street art. One of the two charities they started, Aids Ark, has to date saved

over 1,000 lives.

Living and Loving in the Age of AIDS is available to purchase on the 13th of April at Watkins and Penguin Random House Price: £12.99/$16.95