Mental health and well-being have been sensitive subjects for a number of years. Although many people are beginning to feel comfortable discussing negative feelings. There are still many Mental health issues that are under-recognized and not addressed.
The BetterHealthChannel reported that “Throughout your life, the number and strength of your relationships affect your mental health and physical well-being.”
Of course, it is important to do the work on yourself first by loving and treating yourself with love, care, and respect. On the contrary, spending too much time on personal development can lead to loneliness, isolation, and anti-social behavior which will have a detrimental effect on mental health causing a lack of social skills. Having feelings of loneliness, also causes hormonal stress, disruptive sleeping patterns, and can increase blood pressure.
The good news is that finding the right balance between self-care, personal development, and making time for social connections will give rise to happiness and contentment.
A major mental health issue is Borderline Personality Disorder also known as BPD or ‘Splitting’. It is estimated that 1 in 100 people have BPD.
What is BPD?
The main pillars to identify if a person is experiencing borderline personality disorder is having five or more of these traits:
- Trauma Bonding – refers to a state of being emotionally attached not to a kind friend, loved one or family member, but to an abuser. Ongoing cycles of abuse creating a false sense of powerful emotions.
- Difficulty controlling behavior – may read into things too much and over-interpret the meaning of a person’s words or actions. Deflecting anger towards others.
- Unstable emotions – splitting is the term used in BPD when a person has a fluctuation of good and bad emotions and as a result, they tend to separate others into two categories: ‘Good or Bad’ there is no in-between grey area.
- Experiencing upsetting thoughts. Idealizing others or a thing by overly attaching positive qualities then intensely devaluing or disliking them. Forming repeated intense and unstable relationships.
- Fear of abandonment – unable to build close relationships, pushing people away, abandoning others in fear that people will end up hurting them. Chronic feelings of insecurity, depression, isolation, Obsessive thinking, and intrusive thoughts about the abandonment.
- Feeling empty – lack of meaningful emotion, lack of excitement, lack of purpose, strong feelings of being lost, confused, hopeless, isolated and disconnected.
- Indecisive and Impulsive behavior – tendency to act on a whim, displaying behavior characterized by little or no forethought, reflection, or consideration of the consequences such as anger, reckless activities, overindulging, substance abuse, addictions, eating disorders.
What is the cause of BPD?
- Past trauma or childhood experiences
- Difficulty accepting accountability and change for toxic behavioral patterns
- Being a victim of physical or emotional abuse
- Long-term stress or neglection
- Overcoming BPD, how to recover:
- Psychological counseling
- Behavioral therapy
- Accountability and acceptance to positive change
- Recognizing when feeling triggered
- Be an observer to feelings, thoughts, and emotions
- Be honest and become more self-aware
So, is society producing depressed people?
In an article written by Mel Schwartz he asked the question is society manufacturing depressed people? This is the question we all want answers to. Over the past decade, there has been a huge epidemic in ‘depression’ and the numbers keep on rising. Researchers have reported that more than 50% of the world’s population will, have or are experiencing clinical depression which makes us dig deeper into the facts and figures so we can find a trusted way to overcome it.
Let’s look at the cultural shift and current values. We are now living in a digital world where people are feeling connected through apps on a daily basis. This has created a large percent of people to live in a robotic state of mind…
We wake up – check the apps, go to work – check the apps, out and about – check the apps, going to sleep (or not) – check the apps. Technology has become such a huge part of many people’s lives. With so many people falling into depression and anxiety from feelings of being pressured by society to ‘fit in’. Studies have shown that more than 92 percent of young adults prefer to keep connections with peers and strangers online rather than face to face, causing severe social isolation.
“The less you are connected with human beings in a deep, emphatic way, the less you’re really getting the benefits of social interaction,” — “The more superficial it is, the less likely it’s going to cause you to feel connected, which is something we all need,” says Alexandra Hamlet, PsyD, a clinical psychologist at the ChildMindInstitute.
Do people feel more at ease with building an online persona?
Are people being conditioned to think that building hundreds of friends online means that they are socially connected?
How can we become more self-aware?
How do we avoid falling into clinical depression?
How do we identify if we have clinical depression or just experiencing a rough patch?
There are many natural ways to prevent falling into a depressive state of mind like avoiding stress, understanding that we cannot control everything that happens to us in life if you happen to find yourself in a stressful situation consider taking on some activities such as exercising, changing your diet, surrounding yourself with positive people who have good values and morals. Get enough sleep — Not getting enough sleep can cause severe damage to our physical and mental abilities. Avoid using electronics right before you sleep, if you are not feeling sleepy at bedtime try reading a book. Avoid alcohol and drugs — The Anxiety and Depression Association of America estimates that around 20 per cent of people who have depression also have an alcohol or drug disorder. If you are experiencing negative thoughts or feelings on a consistent basis then it may be time to talk to someone to explore those feelings deeper with cognitive behavioural therapy.